When Hair No Longer Defines You
There was a time when my hair was everything. Long, flowing, and full—it wasn’t just on my head, it was part of my identity. When I left the States, I told myself I would never cut it again. I wanted that look back, the version of me that felt familiar and safe. Long hair was “my thing.”
But Mexico has changed me. The heat, the maintenance, the hours spent taming it—it’s too much. I’ve realized that what I need right now isn’t more hair, but less weight. A lighter me. A freer me.
Letting Go of Old Attachments
Sometimes the very thing we cling to is what keeps us from moving forward. For me, it was hair. For you, it might be something else—a routine, a relationship, even an image of who you used to be. We hold on because it feels like us, but truthfully, it can hold us hostage.
The Scripture Tension
My mother always reminded me of the verse that says, “A woman’s hair is her crown.” She was talking about 1 Corinthians 11:15, “But if a woman has long hair, it is her glory. For long hair is given to her as a covering.” Those words sat with me for years, and in many ways, they shaped how I saw myself.
But there’s another truth in the same Bible: “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles... rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in GOD’s sight.” (1 Peter 3:3-4)
Both verses are true. One speaks to culture and honor at that time, the other to eternal worth. And somewhere between the two is where I’ve been wrestling.
Choosing Freedom
Cutting my hair is more than a style choice—it’s a symbol of release. A fresh start. A reminder that I am not confined to an old image of myself. I am growing, evolving, and walking into new seasons without restriction.
A New Season, A New Me
This isn’t about being more or less of a woman. This is about freedom. About not letting something as temporary as hair decide how I show up in the world. For now, I’ll treat hair as just what it is—an accessory. Nothing more, nothing less.
Closing Thought:
Maybe it’s not hair for you, but what are you still holding on to that no longer serves you? Don’t be afraid to let it go. You might just find the lightness you’ve been praying for.